How to Handle Criticism, Rejection, Judgment, and Conflict

 

Unless you're surrounded exclusively by completely unconditionally loving and accepting individuals 100% of the time, most likely you've received criticism, been judged, harshly rejected, and endured conflict — despite your best efforts. I've definitely experienced many more times than I could count and I used to feel devastated by it all. And here's the truth about that devastation:

  1. It resonated with some part of me that did believe I was:
    • Bad
    • Incompetent
    • Unloveable 
    • Incapable
    • Unworthy
    • etc.
  2. Because I lacked sufficient self acceptance, appreciation, and internal validation I was externally seeking those things externally and was devastated when they were denied to me

But here's the truth: if someone says they hate my blue hair, it means nothing to me because I believe I have brown hair. So I wouldn't feel offended or hurt if someone said that to me. I may, however, still choose not interact with that person since that comment wouldn't be very nice. 

The takeaway here is that first and foremost gracefully handling criticism, rejection, judgment, and conflict was for me an inside job. As I cultivated greater internal resources, I became less defensive, more secure, and better able to objectively observe the situation and make aligned choices. In some cases, when I receive criticism I find it useful and leverage it to show up in an even more fulfilling and joyful capacity than I had previously imagined. Other times, I'm able to compassionately identify that frankly it's not my problem and instead of (secretly) pining over the situation just let it go. What helped me make this transformation is PSYCH-K®. It empowered me to improve my self concept at the subconscious level and as well as prime myself for positive perceptions and expectations of others. A number of the balances I did to facilitate this change for myself and clients include:

 

PSYCH-K® Balances to Get Over Rejection, Criticism, and Judgment 

PSYCH-K® is the most quick, effective, and lasting process I have found for transforming mindset, regulating emotions, and resolving triggers. To relieve the painful feelings around rejection, criticism, and judgment it can be an iterative process with each balance producing increased emotional resilience, building upon themselves, and lasting indefinitely. The balances I used with myself and now use with clients to this end include: 

  • Core Belief Balance — This process is a kind of catch-all designed to create greater harmony mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I felt much lighter once I completed this Balance
  • Life Bonding Balance — This process helped me feel more at peace with life instead of at odds / resistant to it
  • Relationship Balance — Looking in the mirror, I completed this process to balance my relationship with myself so that I could be more at peace with myself. I also did it via surrogation with another PSYCH-K® facilitator to balance meaningful relationships which weighed on my heart
  • Transformation of Perception of Stress Protocol — I completed this process for major traumas I had experienced, which helped me internalize a sense of peace and non attachment around each of them. It removed the emotion (anger, fear, sadness, etc.) from the memories and left neutrality. I also used it for the instances in which I felt unfairly criticized, rejected, and judged to finally feel peace around those moments
  • Messages Protocol — Emotions carry messages and the more the message is missed, the more intense the emotion grows. This protocol helps to discern whatever message the situation or condition is trying to communicate so that it can be fully received and then integrated into our being
  • New Reality Protocol — This protocol is a way of getting guidance from our future selves who are already living the life we would like to create and experience. I find it extremely helpful in getting from where I already am to where I would like to be mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually
  • Individual Balances  — Completed for the most part through either the New Direction Balance or the Resolution Balance. The ones I did which reduced my sensitivity to criticism include:
    • I do my best and my best is good enough
    • I am enough for myself
    • I always appreciate myself
    • I always feel good about who I am and what I do
    • I always feel worthy of acceptance 
    • and more...

It's important to note that individual balances are neither affirmations nor toxic positivity. Instead, they are statements we would like to be true and intentions that are set during the balancing process which facilitate a somatic experience and energetic shift. The transformation is sustained indefinitely post balance.

To experience how PSYCH-K® can help you better handle rejection, criticism, and judgment, book a session.

Written by Emma Soleil

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